if there’s one thing I’ve learnt this year, it’s that people can surprise you - in good and bad ways. I’ve learnt you can underestimate how mean a person can be, and, likewise, overestimate how kind they are. people can change just like that; in the blink of an eye. suddenly their attitude is different and you’ve gone from someone important in their lives to someone you wouldn’t stop to say hi to in the street. you can’t judge a book by it’s cover, but you certainly can’t make definitive judgements after reading them and getting to know them. they change, they will when they want to.
and there’s nothing you can do to stop it.